Bottom line, complimenting your man on his adventurousness and kinkiness is a great way to make him keen on trying new things with you.
20. A More Indirect Approach
If you currently find it tricky to talk about sex with your man or if he clams up anytime you suggest trying something new, then you may want to take a more indirect approach
One way to be indirect is by leaving a sex book where you know he will find it. Then, if he brings it up, you can ask what he thinks or if there is anything that he’d like to try from it. You can also try reading it together and then discussing what may be fun.
21. Watch Porn Together
Another is to ask him if he’d like to watch some porn with you to see if there are some ideas you can try together.
If your man is hesitant, then the key to making your porn viewing comfortable is taking control and choosing what to watch. If you hesitate or insist on your man choosing what to watch, it can get awkward quite quickly. However if you choose what to watch without lots of deliberation, it will be a lot smoother and enjoyable for both of you.
Of course, if he is very eager to show you his favorite porn, then make let him lead the way.
As you browse from video to video together, you can talk to your man about it and ask him questions like:
- That position looks interesting, do you want to try it?
- I love how submissive she is in this one, I wonder what submitting to you would be like?